Me, Too

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One of my "me too" moments was when I was about 20 years old and coaching a freshmen girls basketball team. After the game a high school boy decided to grab my butt.  I stood there in shock of what just happened unsure of what to say or do.  

But then I saw my team watching me.

I nervously as I walked over to confront the kid and talk to the other coach...and eventually the principal.

I remember walking back on the bus that night shaking and trying to hold back the tears from the sickening experience.

I don't know what happened with the kid, if there were any consequences at school or home.  What I do know is that I had eyes watching me and am thankful I stood up for myself and showed the girls on my team what it looked like to stand up for yourself.  I received a note from one girl the following week which made me grateful to know that at least one girl was empowered by my actions.

To the girls and boys in my Health class that witnessed another teacher call me Pooh Bear and sugar, I am sorry for not speaking up for myself or for showing you that being spoken to, or speaking to others, in a demeaning way is not acceptable. 

And for the other times I didn't address it simply for my own empowerment, I am sorry.

But now I have other eyes watching me.  My children's.  I know what they see and hear will become their inner voice and guiding light.  

Recently I was spoken to in a very condescending way by a man.  A prayer I pray with our family often is that we may have the wisdom to know what is right and the courage to do it even when it is hard.  And I chose to live out that truth, by standing up for what was right, even though it was hard.  Saying what I said and doing what I did has come at a price but to me it is worth it so that my children see and hear me live out a truth I speak over them and I hope empowers them to do the same in the future.

I share this with you today in hopes it ignites or flames the fire within you too to use your voice to stand up for what is right and shine a light on what is wrong in hopes to be the change we want to see in this world.

I invite you to take a moment with me to...

Pause. Breathe. Pray.

May we have the wisdom to know what is right and have the courage to stand up for what it right, even when it is hard, and may come at a cost.  May we trust it is worth the loss, and the short term suffering that may come with it, for the long term freedom within it will bring.

With love and hope,

Shawn