One day I was in the kitchen and my husband came in and started closing cabinet doors. He said, "you always leave the cabinet doors open." I got my back up and bitterly said, "No, I don't!"
Literally the next day I was in the kitchen and turned around to see this😳. Ugh, he was right.
I took a picture, humbled myself to send it to him with the message "you're right."
Since then I have often realized that when a truth is reflected at me that Id rather not hear I can get defensive rather than owning it. What I have been practicing is when this happens is to...
Pause. Breathe. Pray.
I look at the source, and when it's someone I know has my best interest at heart, I listen - as uncomfortable as it may be. And then respond with love (which may be silence or gratitude) rather than bitterness and resentment. (This isn't the easiest practice!)
Is there a truth someone who cares about you is reflecting to you and you get defensive rather than listen openly to what they are sharing with you?
I offer to you when someone reflects a truth to you and you get all heated within to practice...
Pausing. Breathing. Praying.
And try listening with open ears and not saying anything at first. Just absorb what they are sharing. Sift through it and own what you need to own and, if can find it within you, even offering gratitude for the insight. It may hurt at first but it will set you free to grow deeper into the best version of yourself. As the quote says, "the truth will set you free but first it may piss you off."
I hope we can put this into practice more often than not so we can grow deeper - and be freer- as the person we were made to be.
"The Truth will set you free" - John 8:32