I am learning in life that often for me to grow, whether it be physically, emotionally, intellectually, spiritually, etc., I need to be uncomfortable. I used to think that life was about being on a plateau of comfort. From parenting our three children to writing and self-publishing my books, I meet my share of challenges on a regular basis that have me uncomfortable.
Last week when I was feeling rather uncomfortable about the unknown of putting A Place for Sam into the world, a friend posted on her Facebook page a video of a Rabbi who shared about lobsters growing...
How does that have anything to do with being uncomfortable? Keep reading...
He went on to share that a lobster has a soft body which lives inside a hard shell. The shell doesn't grow but the soft body within the shell grows. When the body grows and grows, eventually the shell becomes tight and it is uncomfortable for the lobster to remain in that shell. It ends up shedding its old shell and producing a new one. The soft body grows again in the new shell until once again the shell is too small for the growing body, making the lobster feel uncomfortable...and the lobster sheds this shell and then produces another one. A young lobster does this many times a year where an adult lobster only does this once or twice a year.
"The stimulus for the lobster to be able to grow is that it feels uncomfortable." - Rabbi Dr. Abraham
Do you see where I am going with this?
The same is true for our you, me,...and our children. When I think about my life, and my children's life, it is usually when we feel uncomfortable that true growth is happening within.
When we don't get our way - we learn acceptance.
When things don't happen when we want them to - we learn patience.
When things are hard but we know it is what we need to do - we learn perseverance.
And so on and so forth.
Sometimes we need to be uncomfortable to grow into our best self...and our children too.
So I invite you to join me today to...
Pause. Breathe. Pray.
Let's take a moment to recognize where there may be tension in our life right now that is making us uncomfortable - a spouse, parent, friend, boss, employee, etc. Rather than seeing this situation as something that is tightening around you trying to break you, I offer for you to look at it with new eyes. Trust that what is happening is helping you grow...and yes, it may be uncomfortable. Yet, when we choose to grow - rather than resist growth - there will be a time when we will break free from the confining shell of the situation and experience a freedom, just like that lobster does when shedding its shell...until the next opportunity presents itself for us to grow. And just like the lobster, the cycle of our personal growth continues...as long as we invite those uncomfortable moments to make us, not break us.
The choice is ours...