Yesterday one of my children was having a rough afternoon. A friend shared recently her mother's advice to her about parenting...
"When you least feel like hugging your child is when they need your hug the most."
This came to mind in a tense moment. Rather than disengaging with my child, I took my children on a walk down to the river.
While we were there these beautiful lyrics flowed through my mind...
"I go to the river
To soothe my mind
To ponder over
The crazy days of my life
Watch the river flow
Ease my mind and soul...
...Watch the river flow
Moving gracefully and slow...
...The mad pace and the hurry
The troubles and the worries
Let the river take them all away..."
("Where I Go" by Natalie Merchant)
Where I go in my mind when things get tense matters. I can go to tension, anger, etc. or I can choose to...
Pause. Breathe. Pray.
And align my thoughts with love, gaining clarity and insight on how best to handle each situation.
Yesterday I drew my child close, yet there will be days when space is needed. I will be imperfect at handling these situations. I will mess up tough love with soft love and soft love for tough love. What is beautiful is that grace awaits me, and my children. And grace, like the cleansing, calm, nourishing river, will always be there for me to wash all the crazy away and bring me back my center where peace resides.
I hope that each of us choose grace, towards ourselves and others, to bring more peace within our hearts, and theirs.